Kate from A year with horses talked about a book called "A horse's thought, a journey into honest horsemanship" by Tom Moates.
As my overloaded bookshelves still always can make room for another horse book, I bought it.
(Actually, that was a lie. Our books are drowning our small house, but I am not planning to stop buying...)
The book was nice, perhaps not as good as the ones by Mark Rashid IMHO -but there were some things that stuck to my mind.
One of them was the expression "With-you-ness".
I will quote the definition straight from the book:
"A way of the horse and human each responding to the other while participating in the same experience--both aware of, and being sensitive to, the mental desires, emotional balance, as well as the physical needs of the other, during which time there is no fear, anxiety, resistance, or resentment"
Quite a tall order, that is - don't you think?
But I love the word.
Like in "we like the company of each other ", "we feel good together" and "we trust each other".
I truly enjoy the company of my horse.
Like when I am grooming her and we just silently enjoy being together. I feel my stress leaving me, and I get calm and relaxed. Fame backs up her side or hind to have me scratch her, just there.
Or after we have been working, and she gets her hay. She is standing in the door opening, munching on her hay while watching me conditioning her tack. We are a bit tired, both of us, but happy and content.
Or out on trail, contemplating the scenery and the stillness around us -or blowing off some steam, laughing inside.
Or in those golden moments when we are working in the arena, and I feel I can just think of doing something, and then we do it, together.
While I cannot say that I am totally aware of Fame's desires and needs (that would be way too presumptious) I feel very close to her, often.
And I just love that feeling.
Maybe that is the true joy of having a horse.